Choices, Choices, choices……..Whatever choice we make we will receive a follow up consequence. An immediate or a futuristic consequence. Some of us do things and don’t realize that sooner or later that action will affect us and will make the course of our lives change. Change means physical, psychological, physiological, and other ways imaginable. It is up to the individual to take action and try to change that consequence that eventually will affect our actions “AKA: Behavior”. We are the smartest being on this planet, do we forget that every action has a consequence? Do we forget that everything we do has the possibility to change if we make an effort to make it change? When you feel everything is doomed because you’ve made decisions that you regret, always remember……..you have the power to change it. Also remember that everything you do in this lifetime will have a positive or negative consequence, YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE! DON’T BE AFRAID!
Is it a lot harder now to deal with children’s behavior than it was 20 years ago? Why do I see some adults having a hard time with children’s behavior? Is it because some adults are having children at a much younger age? They are having children at a much older age? Is it because some parents are getting criticized about their parenting skills and they feel they have failed so they let school handle the behavior? Or is it that children’s behavior is just hard to deal with on all levels? Children will test the waters anywhere they can. The moment they test their idea (test the water), and they find out they can get away with it, it’s only a matter of time for them to perfect the behavior. While they polish their new behavior and get ready to use it, the parent is oblivious at the child’s newly learned behavior. Maybe some of us forget that the child we see in front of us is much more than a child. That child is a brain hard at work exploring the world around him/her. While exploring they are expanding their learning not only physically but cognitively also. You all know that famous line, right….”a child’s mind is like a sponge”. Their little minds will expand their learning experiences in every way, shape, and form. Along with the learning, some things they see will be retained in their little minds. This is when the fun starts……It is the parents duty to observe the child on a daily basis. What I mean is, take the time to talk to your child and see what he/she likes and dislike. Engage in some type of conversation. Depending on the age, try to find out what the child likes and dislikes. Now, when I say conversation I don’t mean sit the child at the table and have a Q&A. What I mean by this is you can have a conversation during playtime, playing cars on the floor, playing dolls in the doll house, while on the iPad paralleling the likes or dislike with the iPad. Find out what are some of their immediate interests and also find out what other things they might start paying attention to. Or simply just be a fly on the wall and just observe and listen to the child while the child is engaged in something he/she likes or dislikes. Ultimately, thru some type of conversation (verbal or on verbal) we as parents can hopefully see what is coming our way. Always remember, our children live with us so we get to see them everyday of our lives, so that alone should give us the upper hand with their behavior.
Attention is the foundation of learning. Some children will have socially acceptable ways of gaining attention. Some don’t have or haven’t developed the skill of attention seeking. The next time you see a child behaving erratically, ask yourself……is the child seeking some kind of attention?
Behavior is an action. An action that can be shaped, modified, or changed. Tools tailored exclusively for each individual having behavior difficulties can be highly affective. Behavior is not a “one size fits all” approach, therefore every approach should be different and will not always be the same.